Are You Still Living In The Past?
Stop!
Start Making Your Future Brighter!
Have you ever been told to stop living in the past? People will often say this in an attempt to provide encouraging advice about moving on with your life. They are not you and only you can fix it. It sounds easy, but is it, really?
Although it sounds easy enough, it can be very difficult, especially if there are deep-seated and possibly painful reasons behind living in the past. Significant past experiences and memories, such as the death of a loved one, a painful breakup, traumatic childhood, etc., can be contributing factors as to why you can’t simply and easily move on with life.
Possibly though, you may be holding on to things that are no longer relevant.
If you can’t let go of the past, you won’t be able to fully appreciate the beauty of the present or the future. The hardest part of any change is making the decision to take the first step is some quiet and healthy self-reflection.
Pause for a while and contemplate on your current life and its associated feelings, compared to what they could be. Without your active effort, things may improve, terribly slowly. You can take action and make space for a new happier life.
Being stuck in the past can have a detrimental effect on your relationships, your future, your mental health and overall well-being
Focus on the present – focus, focus, focus!
“You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.” ― Meditations
Stop reliving the past and move on. No matter what you do, without a time machine, you can’t undo or remake the past, no matter how much you wish. Rather, what you can do is to make the present day the best. Live as if it’s your last. You will have less time to think about the past if you actively focus on the present and future. Learn from the past but don’t dwell on it.
If you are too fixated on previous negative happenings, there will be no room for positivity. This is entirely a choice you can and have to make – whether to continue hurting yourself or to embrace the new day, potentially full of joy. You can do it!
Decide to let it all go, and do this with conviction.
To make it work, commit yourself to “move on” and “let it go.” If you don’t, things will continue to go in circles and could end you up getting stuck in the past, again. Make a decision that will empower you and your future, commit to it, and act. Make a commitment to let go of the pain you may be feeling. If needed, seek a qualified therapist to help you along your journey.
Make room for forgiveness.
It may be hard to forget what has happened in the past and the bad behaviors of the people involved in it. Getting past resentment and forgiving others is a vital step. More to the point, you need the healing that forgiving another brings.
Forgiving doesn’t necessarily mean you agree with what they did. You can recognize that they did wrong, or badly, yet still forgive them anyway. It’s definitely not a sign of weakness if you do so, quite the contrary, it is a sign of inner strength! It’s confirmation that you want to move on with life and welcome any joy the present moment brings.
Physically distance yourself.
Don’t remain attached to an environment (including people) that keeps you trapped in your current circumstances and mindset. It is emotionally healthy to distance yourself from a situation or individual that is causing you to be depressed. Psychological or physical distance can help with the “letting go” process by virtue of not being constantly reminded of anything that hinders your progress. In other words, keep away from the people, places or things that bring back unwanted memories.
Acceptance is the key.
Accepting your past experiences and the people that have been part of it will help you in moving on. You must remember that none of these need to define who you are and only you can do that. Practice the art of acceptance, remake yourself, and set yourself free. Move on and enjoy your future life.
Be accountable for your own happiness.
Your feelings are yours alone; don’t let others control them. If you do, you’re allowing someone to completely take over you, at least emotionally. You will feel a huge sense of happiness and empowerment once you take responsibility for your feelings and emotions. Your attitude plays a bigger role in this than any external elements.
Evaluate your emotions.
When assessing your emotions, you need to know what are they bringing to you. Reminisce if there are happy, positive thoughts there. But if dredging the past causes negativity that will adversely affect your here and now, don’t dwell on it. Replace it with a better thought.
Make some contributions.
Going the extra mile to help others can make you feel warm and happy on the inside. It is one of the best ways to align with the real you. Brighten yours, and another’s day by offering a smile, saying a simple hello, or giving a donation to or volunteering for a worthwhile cause. These simple acts of kindness can help you set your perspective on a brighter path and can have a lasting impact on others and yourself.
Hopefully this can help you with your “moving on” phase. Any effort you make will all be worth it. You can do it! Cheers to a brighter present and future.
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